Also I see other people in my feminist group on facebook

and a lot of them are like 

“My husband got really offended when I didn’t want to change my name when we got married”

“My husband says it’s unrealistic for fat women to be with conventionally attractive men:

"My husband *insert incredibly racist bullshit here*”

“My husband *insert homophobic bullshit here*”

“My husband *insert transphobic bullshit here*”

“My husband *insert victim blamey bullshit here*”

and I’m like “how much do dudes have to suck on average for this to be normal in my really careful about intersectionality, really careful about ableism and generally incredibly good feminist group?  Like HOW ARE YOU MARRIED TO THESE THINGS?”

Also how come mine doesn’t do that?  Did I just randomly happen to get literally the best one?  Is that what I did?

Is it because I had the alternative of people who aren’t men that I didn’t end up with a dude who lives to spout problematic shit?