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Sexualized desexualization is trans women being un-datable and un-fuckable, yet trans women are a mainstream porn genre.

To clarify:

I’m not saying loads of people secretly are attracted in healthy ways to trans women and hide it.

I’m saying that the majority of attraction felt towards us is heavily interwoven with morbid curiosity and disgust.

It’s especially bad from straight men, because they are the most aggressive about defending their sexuality (to others and themself). And virtually everyone sees trans women as being kind of men and kind of women – something that makes straight men and cis lesbians see us as an INHERENT compromise of their identity.

Sexualized desexualization sounds like an inherently contradictory term.

It means trans women are seen as unattractive, yet we are seen as (gross) sex objects and primarily viewed in terms of sex. We can’t even walk into a bathroom without narrative dictating we’re either going to rape someone or be raped.

Even when it comes to people “supporting” us, it is mostly centred around sex. Our current and past partners congratulate themselves on being Good People who’d settle for fucking a trans women. They hold it up as some kind of proof that they aren’t transmisogynistic or transphobic. And I can’t even count the ridiculous number of bi/pan people who have flat-out said to me that girls like me are “the best of both worlds” as an intended compliment, and been offended at my reaction.

That is sexualized desexualization. We are sex objects,  but we are icky, disposable, and shameful sex objects.

I think this is probably a good post, but I’d like to hear some trans lady sex worker’s perspectives on it because I know some of my trans lady SW friends have complained about experiencing a lot of whorephobia and respectability stuff and kind of being thrown under the bus by other trans women and other sex workers are really important to me.