if you don’t want people to get pissed at you, try not straight-up attack them for their lifestyle. no one comes onto your page & bullies you over what you like, so it’s obvious you shouldn’t do it to others. you could have reworded your post in so many different ways that wouldn’t have offended a whole community, like maybe “I’m sorry, but I just don’t want to see ddlg updates on my blog.” you have the right to be uncomfortable, but no right to bully or shame people.

1. I’ve had people come and attack me for what I like a lot actually, go check out my BDSM tag, it happens routinely.

2. My expressing distaste for and discomfort with a thing is not a condemnation of the thing.  I am expressing personal discomfort.  This is my blog, did I go to a ddlg couple and say “You’re gross”? No, I said “This icks me out” talking about my emotional reaction not the inherent value or worth of the people involved.  Much as it would be reasonable for me, on a personal blog to say “bubble gum ice cream skeeves me out, why is it so sweet?” (which is precisely how I do feel about bubblegum ice cream, it is too sweet and its flavor causes me a sensation akin to pain) but on the other hand if I’d said “People who eat bubblegum ice cream are shit” that would be unkind (and a bit weird).  I, in fact, stated that I understand that other people have their reasons for valuing a dynamic I find icky, much as I understand that some people would be utterly bereft without bubble gum ice cream, but I do not want to see ddlg stuff any more than I want to go to a bubble gum ice cream eating contest.

3. I’ve asked several times before, more politely, it didn’t stop, I’ve now asked less politely in the hopes that it will stop.  A request that you leave stuff I made off your porn blog is not an attack on you or your lifestyle, my statement that I’m not comfortable hearing details of your sex life is not akin to me saying “You’re bad for doing that” or “you should be ashamed” but simply that “It unsettles me and I do not want to hear about it” similarly to how no one should ever feel ashamed of shitting, all humans do it, it’s normal, it’s fine, but I have a right to ask you to “please not discuss your bowel movements with me” I have a right to say, without making you feel ashamed, or bad about yourself “please do not involve me in this particular sexual practice”

4. You are fine, whatever your kinks are, provided they’re practiced with consenting adults, that’s great.  I’m very glad you’ve found something that works for you.  I’m not calling your kink a perpetuation of rape culture, inherently misogynist or any of the bullshit I generally get for mine, I’m saying “this squicks me” me,not “you are gross”, but that this one, personally, is squicky to me.  There is no moral judgement there, just a statement of personal discomfort.