So you’re a sex worker, and all you want is to date without dealing with A: People’s shitty attitudes towards your profession, B: People being ultra creepily into what you do, C: General bullshit.
This is hard because society is a shit, and treats us like we’re dirty and chronically unfaithful…
This is a good list of points. The advice to date on the fringes of society should be taken carefully though. There are so many hustlers and deadbeats more than happy to spend a sex worker’s earnings.
I frequently feel gloomy about my lack of relationship prospects as a sex worker, because I’m in a really good place these days and would make such a great girlfriend, I’ve learned a lot from my past mistakes. And because I’m in my 20s but I feel like I no longer do any young person things anymore like go on dates or pick up stupid drunk people. It’s disheartening that I continued having partners and lovers throughout the years I was a dysfunctional drug addict, but now I don’t date or see anyone. People would rather date a fucked up morose drug addict than a healthy and happy sex worker.
This is true. I find finding someone who utterly unbegrudgingly and without you asking helps you with shit is a good sign. At least for me, cause I do this for my partners… and I need the same.
They are out there. My husband is AWESOME (like cares about intersectional feminism, high fives me for getting money out of clients, was friends with escorts in a non-”waaah I’m in the friendzone” way when I met him, and makes a bitchin’ spaghetti bolognese, balances our budget and does about 75 percent of the housework awesome, and he’s gorgeous) and I think the thing is, it’s harder to find someone initially but when you find someone who’s really genuinely and not for financial gain cool with being with a sex worker and who treats sex workers like actual people, they’re actually just great people with great values.
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