I don’t really like the whole “I’ve made myself an object for men to use” thing I see with a lot of bimbo stuff, like for me that wrankles because of the lack of agency involved and because like, for me, objectification and submission and all of those things are very very intensely about the personal relationship I have with my partner. I do not exist to please men, any more than I exist to please the entire population of New Zealand, all people with blonde hair or all dip pen artists.
Submission is to the particular for me, never to the general. I am my master’s dog. He’s the only one who can pat me and not get bitten.
I also don’t like the idea of generalized submission, like because I’m group X I have to submit to people from group Y, I want the reason I submit to be personal, not general.
I want it to be like “Well you knew my methods and you hired me to teach you to be a proper lady and you could fire me but you’re not going to because you know I’m right”
or
“Well you admitted yourself to this experimental mental health treatment program and we were completely transparent about what the program entailed and you knew what the consequences for failing to fill out your journal entries would be, and now you can either leave the program or accept your punishment, no one forced you to be here this was your idea.”
or
“You asked me to let you worship me as a god, you’re free to go, but as long as you want to keep me as your god, you will do as you are told.”
I don’t like my BDSM to mirror oppression, something that happens to me outside of my control, I get enough of that in the real world, I like it to be much more of a “You knew my methods when you signed up for this pottery class, I don’t care if you’re embarrassed, you can leave and even get a full refund or you can strip naked and wear your ‘I didn’t pay attention to the kiln temperature and everything in it cracked’ sign and continue to learn from me” situation or a “this is the terms of service for ACME Co Orgasm service they are very clear and easy to read, and you actually can cancel with no repercussions at any time but failure to abide by the TOS will result in penalties or termination of service, at which point you will be free to see any of our many competing orgasm services,:
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 