Two questions. 1) If your husband wanted you to change the way you normally look, like your style and your hair, would you do it or would that request make you feel bad? 2) Do you think being with someone who is attracted to you despite you not having the physical features they find most attractive is a bad idea? Totally asking for a friend. These things are not at all happening to me.

1. It would depend on how, that said, I probably would but only because deferring to my partner about my appearance is my fetish and I like the looks my husband likes , and if we hadn’t discussed that as something I want and am into, and he was pressuring me, then absolutely not and I’d be pissed at him for thinking he has the right to dictate my appearance 3. Depends on the person and how they handle it, if they’ve brought it up idk it seems kinda douchey to tell someone you presumably like “I like you even though you aren’t normally my thing” it sounds a little like negging imo