1. The sunk cost fallacy: Meaning the more you “invest” in something (time, money etc) the more valuable you believe it is.
2. Our brain is our most important sexual organ: Meaning that the better you believe sex is the better it is.
So, because you went through pain/humiliation/etc to get that orgasm, you believe that orgasm will be better and because of how the brain works, the more enjoyable you think your orgasm is going to be the more enjoyable it will be.
Tops may enjoy it in part because A: they’re reflecting their partner’s heightened (sunk cost fallacy) based enjoyment, B: May be experiencing some sunk cost fallacy enjoyment of their own because BDSM is complicated and they had to learn skills, and quite possibly purchase equipment to do it properly, and go through the mental effort of planning the scene
Um, what?
A: You act like sex is just a build up to an orgasm. What about the large percentage of the population who rarely orgasm during sex yet still enjoy it? Or just people who do orgasm most of the time yet still enjoy the rest of it equally or more?
B: This is a really unnecessarily complicated explanation. I mean, it hinges on a comparison between bdsm and capitalism without any mention of why those two things are in any way similar. Wouldn’t it be much simpler to just accept that people like BDSM because we actually enjoy it? Or for the more nuanced explanation refer to people who can speak from personal experience?
If this was true, I wouldn’t get aroused while reading fucked up shit where other people are being humiliated. Like, I’ll read a news article about someone being publicly shamed and get horny.
1. The sunk cost fallacy: Meaning the more you “invest” in something (time, money etc) the more valuable you believe it is.
2. Our brain is our most important sexual organ: Meaning that the better you believe sex is the better it is.
So, because you went through pain/humiliation/etc to get that orgasm, you believe that orgasm will be better and because of how the brain works, the more enjoyable you think your orgasm is going to be the more enjoyable it will be.
Tops may enjoy it in part because A: they’re reflecting their partner’s heightened (sunk cost fallacy) based enjoyment, B: May be experiencing some sunk cost fallacy enjoyment of their own because BDSM is complicated and they had to learn skills, and quite possibly purchase equipment to do it properly, and go through the mental effort of planning the scene
Um, what?
A: You act like sex is just a build up to an orgasm. What about the large percentage of the population who rarely orgasm during sex yet still enjoy it? Or just people who do orgasm most of the time yet still enjoy the rest of it equally or more?
B: This is a really unnecessarily complicated explanation. I mean, it hinges on a comparison between bdsm and capitalism without any mention of why those two things are in any way similar. Wouldn’t it be much simpler to just accept that people like BDSM because we actually enjoy it? Or for the more nuanced explanation refer to people who can speak from personal experience?
If this was true, I wouldn’t get aroused while reading fucked up shit where other people are being humiliated. Like, I’ll read a news article about someone being publicly shamed and get horny.
The fact that people don’t know I’m a sub and are offended by this mostly for funsies little logic chain is weird, like I’m aware of the adrenaline/endorphin rush physiological shit, I’ve talked at length about it arguing with antikink feminists, and other more nuanced shit. I’ve talked at length about being a submissive, posts about which some of you have reblogged. Wtf?
. Also the sunk cost fallacy predates capitalism
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 