I Think The Reason Being A BDSM Bottom Is Enjoyable Might Be Explained With A Combination of Two Factors:

whoremoantherapy:

thepeacockangel:

1. The sunk cost fallacy: Meaning the more you “invest” in something (time, money etc) the more valuable you believe it is.

2. Our brain is our most important sexual organ: Meaning that the better you believe sex is the better it is.

So, because you went through pain/humiliation/etc to get that orgasm, you believe that orgasm will be better and because of how  the brain works, the more enjoyable you think your orgasm is going to be the more enjoyable it will be.

This is also why sex workers’ clients actually enjoy themselves more the more they paid for the experience.

Tops may enjoy it in part because A: they’re reflecting their partner’s heightened (sunk cost fallacy) based enjoyment, B: May be experiencing some sunk cost fallacy enjoyment of their own because BDSM is complicated and they had to learn skills, and quite possibly purchase equipment to do it properly, and go through the mental effort of planning the scene

Um, what?

A: You act like sex is just a build up to an orgasm. What about the large percentage of the population who rarely orgasm during sex yet still enjoy it? Or just people who do orgasm most of the time yet still enjoy the rest of it equally or more?

B: This is a really unnecessarily complicated explanation. I mean, it hinges on a comparison between bdsm and capitalism without any mention of why those two things are in any way similar. Wouldn’t it be much simpler to just accept that people like BDSM because we actually enjoy it? Or for the more nuanced explanation refer to people who can speak from personal experience?

I am a lifestyle submissive masochist, I thought this was an amusing explanation/fun thought experiment