are fucking creepy.
It’s like, subculture-y people date other subculture-y people, sorry, but like I don’t spend this much time keeping my purple bangs purple and applying eyeliner to bang some dude in a polo shirt.
People who have an intense “look” go out with other people who have an intense “look”
Like a punk’ll date a goth, or a metalhead or whatever other sort of weird looking on purpose person, but like yeah, if you’re not into them because you have something in common it seems really fetishizing.
Have been dating a “normal” dude for almost five years. He wears polo shirts and was, in fact, a frat bro when we met. His wardrobe doesn’t affect his obsession with Morrissey, Siouxsie Sioux, and Bowie. Wearing fraternity gathering t-shirts doesn’t make him any less awesome to play Vampire: The Masquerade with. Wearing a suit and tie to work a 9-5 everyday doesn’t magically make him less cult-like devoted to David Lynch and Tim Burton.
The fact I have blue hair, tattoos, and an infinite collection of Cure shirts doesn’t mean he’s fetishizing me; it just means we’re capable of being different fucking people and still making eachother happy.I’d think a subculture of people getting shit for how they look constantly might
understand not judging people based on their packaging a little better.
There’s a difference between always specifically chasing after alternative girls and ending up with one