i think another important thing is while femdom as a kink does often rely on sexualization of female anger and the reveral of societal power balance, on the same kinda note as other childhood anon i was a kid who liked girls + girls bullied me a ton, + the femdom im into is more “im very mean and im teasing you” where my weird bullying kink w men is more like shoving in lockers type stuff bc i was coded female as a kid and it was pop culture all the way, but still bullycentric. it just varies