Like, I’m sorry, but purring “do you want it?” into your partner’s ear before you fuck is hot.
Looking into your partner’s eyes and asking “may I?” in a voice breathy with desire before you kiss them is super hot.
and “Do you want me to pin you up against this wall and fuck you till you’re screaming my name?” is just basically dirty talk.
What the actual fuck is wrong with you? If asking for consent ruins sex for you, you’re… what? A rapist who sucks at talking dirty?
Is that a demographic whose fun we care about ruining?
True stuff. I dated a guy who would ask stuff like that and while I don’t buy into the whole “consent is sexy” movement… consent can be really, really sexy if you do it right.
Exactly, consent is mandatory, but also can be profoundly sexy.
I’m really weirded out by the whole "mandatory and pleasurable are mutually exclusive” idea.
Like, eating is mandatory, we die if we don’t do it, but it’s also for many people an enjoyable experience.
Peeing, also mandatory, often feels pleasant and relieving to do.
Sleep, also mandatory, possibly tumblr’s favorite activity.
Things can be mandatory and fun.
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 