Also I don’t want to raise my kids to be grateful to me

I want the stuff I do to make my kids happy, and I want them to like like and appreciate it.

But gratitude implies a kind of subordinance I’m not into, I don’t want them to feel like they don’t deserve it, because they’re my kids, they deserve to have what they need, and nice things and to be happy.

I mean like I don’t want them to throw tantrums if I accidentally fuck up and get them the wrong color of phone or whatever, but I want them to feel more “Aw, mum’s trying her best, and she really loves me, I know she’d never do this on purpose” and not “I should be grateful to have a phone at all because I’m an undeserving wretch.”