is somehow the only form of consent that matters, and doing other stuff to people without their consent is somehow more okay or less traumatic re enforces view that the problem with rape is the assault on sexual purity, rather than an assault on autonomy.
Believe me, as a survivor of rape, and of domestic violence, I was just as traumatized by not being allowed to go out on my own, by being forced to sleep on the floor so that my boyfriend could use the bed for his guitars. being tickled to the point where wet myself, as I was by the rapes. All were again and again re enforcement of the idea that my preferences and desires did not matter, that I had no agency, no choice.
If you believe that agreement to do something if you get paid for it is consent for stuff other than sex, than it’s consent for sex too.
Forcing someone to dig a ditch against their will is slavery, someone agreeing to dig a ditch for you if they get paid isn’t. Jesus.
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 