thepeacockangel:

incidentalpiratess:

coyoteelectric:

one of the most efficient ways that I’ve been able to get through to other feminists about sex work, something that is very vocally supported as an empowering career choice, is to ask, “can you buy consent?”

the answer is so obviously no, that when the realization hits that that is exactly what they are advocating, the purchase of consent, it can really open their eyes

Exactly. 🙂 I’m going to use this rhetoric the next time some so-called ”feminist” suggests we try to buy the consent of those poor people forced into the food industry. No little girl dreams of serving coffee to strangers when she grows up! These people can’t consent to cook, serve, and clean up food! It’s sickening. These poor people need to be rescued from these abusive industries, preferably by police officers who will make sure they can never get a decent job anywhere else at a minimum. And don’t even get me started on the retail industry. As feminists, our #1 priority is making sure everyone is ~empowered~ by their job. We should absolutely make life harder for people who are working jobs for shitty reasons, like “paying the rent.” No one can ever consent to sex for money. Just like no one can ever consent to do anything, like, say, watching someone else’s kids for pay. You can’t buy consent. 🙂

Also like the opposite question is “can consent be conditional?” cause like, I can consent to someone fucking me with a condom but if they sneak the condom off that’s rape, if I’m saying “my consent is conditional upon X” and you meet the condition, BAM consent.

That said, economic coercion is a thing and the only solution is to end capitalism

Also like the OPs phrasing is bad because it implies that the “buying of consent” can be done with anyone at any time, but the thing is, it’s conditional consent as given by people who choose to consent to an act, but only along certain terms.  You can make the terms of your consent whatever you want, and people can choose whether they want to accept them or reject them.  Is it “bartering for consent” when someone insists their partner wear a condom?  Is it “buying consent” to only agree to give oral sex if you also get to receive oral sex?  

Like the phrasing implies “consent can be bought from anyone at any time, you just go down to the consent shop and get your little card and then you can do whoever you want.” when it’s more like some people have consent that is sometimes conditional upon getting $$$ for it.

Like if I were to phrase the purchase of labor as “Can you buy part of a person’s life?” it would sound equally awful and the fact that you think of that differently, and the fact that you think that somehow sexual labor is different from other labor, shows that your problem with sex work is the sex part, not the work part.

You have views of sexual morality that put sex on a pedestal, as if it is something holy, that should only be done for love or pleasure, but it’s just an act like any other act.  It’s like saying you should only cook for people you love to restaurant chefs, because otherwise they’re just being used for other people’s pleasure or that therapists are being abused because they’re being used as emotional crutches for people who don’t care about them in return.