culturalkropotkinist:

psychedelic-communism:

littlestworm:

psychedelic-communism:

BDSM looks like it takes too much effort

what

i think sex is best when its spontaneous and in the moment. People who are into bdsm seem like they go through a lot just to prepare. not saying that some of that stuff wouldnt be fun but like idk i’d rather spend money on drugs to have crazy sex instead of various toys and rope and stuff

 +1

I’m not a huge fan of BDSM because of some of my political views but even when I give it a chance in my mind I just don’t find it appealing. I’ve had a partner bring it into one of my relationships in the past and maybe I’m a bad actor but I wasn’t into it at all and felt cheesy as hell, plus my personal biases against 96.2% of it.

Spontaneous, random shit in the bedroom is far more exciting than going into it with a plan of what role you’re going to “play” and busting out a suitcase full of toys. I feel like kinksters spend so much time rebelling from “vanilla” sex and trying to make themselves seem different that they miss the forest for the trees. Toys and even roleplaying can be fun and not unhealthy but when your ENTIRE sex life is centered around it, idk, I get a weird vibe from it.

Meh it can be a hobby like any other hobby, domming is my job, honestly, it’s a lot of labor, subs just kinda get to enjoy the result of all the prep.  IDK, I also think a lot of people don’t understand that the dynamics are different between play and the actual relationships.  I’ve dealt with a lot of rapey abusive subs in my life, which is one of the reasons why I can’t enjoy domming at all