On the one hand: I do not want her in the men’s bathroom because it is not safe for her there and would be misgendering her to ask her to use said bathroom. It’s absolutely not okay to make trans people use the wrong bathroom, doing so is undoubtedly an act of violence.
On the other hand: I believe in gender neutral bathrooms (thus I’m chill with my husband pooping in the same place that beautiful ladies poop) and think the implication that men can never be trusted to be faithful is gender essentialist and fucked up. Also IDK but I don’t think excretoriums are super conducive to flirtation
Trans Woman Asks: ‘You Really Want Me In The Same Bathroom As Your Husband?’
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 