Warning: Potentially Dangerous Survivor Blog Network

thebifeminist:

all-about-abuse:

I’m sorry for making a callout post but this situation is bad enough that I am concerned about the safety of other survivors because of it.

LavenderHealing, LavenderLibrary, LavenderTheatre, LavenderSisterhood etc. are all run by the same person. They are openly unsafe for trans women and sex workers, you can view our conversation about this here. You can also see on her blogs that she interacts exclusively with other TWEF and SWERF bloggers. They follow anyone they encounter, like a spam blog, regardless of that person’s boundaries. They are known to follow sex workers and trans people despite explicit boundaries that forbid TWEFs and SWERFs following them. 

They also routinely share blatantly incorrect information about issues such as abuse, medication, and psychology. 

Some examples of misinformation include:

• They claim that valium (diazepam) is made from valerian (a herb). This is completely untrue.

• Here in this very NSFW link, they tell a young woman who’s upset about her boyfriend watching porn to “focus on more sexually mature males”. 
• Here, they conflate meditation with a Pavlovian response and tell readers that they “must accept what she says unquestioningly”. This is a huge red flag for abuse; you should never accept anything without question from anyone. 
• Here she conflates trauma bonding and Stockholm Syndrome, and provides a self-quiz that has zero basis in psychology, counseling or mental health care of any kind.
• In this post, she conflates child sexual abuse with a number of concepts found in new age spirituality while suggesting that an anonymous askers’ feelings of unease around men are based on repressed memories of child sexual abuse. This is someone she doesn’t even know.
• In this post, she conflates parentification (sometimes called ‘covert incest’) with sexual abuse, when the term actually refers to a parent relying on their child for emotional support
• Here, she says that some incomprehensible nonsense that I’m guessing is meant to mean the Madonna-Whore complex, is “causing 100% of your medical and mental health problems”, a very dangerous and frankly ridiculous statement.

And these are just what I can see on the first page. This person is offering psychological advice that is not only wrong but potentially very harmful. 

I am not suggesting that anyone sends hate to this person. I recommend blocking them, sharing this post so other people are aware of what’s going on, an keeping an eye on the sources of the posts you reblog so you can avoid reblogging misinformation from them. 

I know there’s a lot of information here so I’ll summarize

• All the lavender- blogs are run by one person, with LavenderHealing appearing to be their primary blog
  
• this person follows everyone they encounter, regardless of their boundaries, like a spam blog
• they are openly hostile to trans women and sex workers while also following us against our explicit consent, in violation of our boundaries
• the majority of their posts are not only factually incorrect but potentially very dangerous
• I recommend blocking them, reblogging this post and being mindful of the sources of the posts you reblog since none of the lavender blogs are reliable sources

Thanks for reading, stay safe everyone.

Guys, this is the blog(s) I was talking about. I’m glad someone else noticed and was spreading the word- thank you for making this post!  

Here is the post I was talking about that I saw, which is a response to this person’s post (x)