Like men are able to get away with never expressing of requesting help with their feelings because women are trained from a very young age to observe men, watch for signs of emotional need and environmental stressors and deal with them without being asked. It’s why women worry constantly about emasculating the men in their lives but men never worry about “efeminating” the women in their lives.
Men are “stoic” only because they don’t have to communicate in order to get their emotional needs met.
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…….have never read something that explains my family dynamic so well
This describes the past several MILLENNIA, including why so many men only really communicate with their bros.
I can’t reblog this without adding my two cents: men aren’t allowed to express their feelings by the patriarchy because it’d make them “look like women” – weak.
How many times have you heard “Little boys don’t cry”?
Now if only men saw women as their equals, they wouldn’t be afraid of acting like them.
The dynamics feed into one another, that said emotional labor has very often got nothing to do with expressing your own feelings and everything to do with attending to the emotional needs of others
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 