cause they don’t know how to be close with someone non-sexually, like their relationships with their dude friends are moderated through all these weird masculine codes where like touching and discussion of emotion are limited by this fear of effeminacy/homosexuality (and like it’s so deep they don’t even realize they’re doing it) and so like the only people they really talk about that shit with is their partners and so like they understand romance with emotional closeness.
Which like doesn’t excuse their behavior, just like reiterates how much of a problem toxic masculinity is and like if men want to do something feminist one of the best things they can do is emotionally connect with other men and like not be toxic towards other men.
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 