Also Maybe It’s Best To Think About Calling Out Privileged Actions

In terms of who’s denying the oppressed person a basic right.

Like in the case of it being acceptable to non-consensually touch marginalized people, the person doing the touching is denying a woman or black person or whoever the right not to be touched without their consent.

In the case of the straight couple having an easier time living together openly than a gay couple?  The straight couple isn’t the one making it hard for the gay couple to live together openly, it’s people like landlords, bosses, families, and communities that might ostracize them.

Or in the case of dude authors getting published more than lady authors, a dude who wrote a book that wrote a mediocre book that got published instead of a lady’s not as mediocre book isn’t at fault.  The publisher, and book reviewers, and societal norms are, but it’s a lot easier to just vent your frustration on the dude who wrote a mediocre book even though like if he hadn’t written that mediocre book it would have been some other dude with a mediocre book but like actually you shouldn’t because that doesn’t address the problem in a way that’ll help and makes a scapegoat of some rando dude so that people vent their rage without actually changing the system that caused the problem in the first place.

Like the fact that there isn’t always a single person, easily confronted villain is shitty, but like if we want to actually change society we have to be ready to address broad systemic concerns as broad and systemic rather than going after symbolic targets that change nothing.