Like men are able to get away with never expressing of requesting help with their feelings because women are trained from a very young age to observe men, watch for signs of emotional need and environmental stressors and deal with them without being asked. It’s why women worry constantly about emasculating the men in their lives but men never worry about “efeminating” the women in their lives.
Men are “stoic” only because they don’t have to communicate in order to get their emotional needs met.
On the flip side, the only reason this is an issue is because men are taught from young to hide their feelings and be emotionless and strong. Its beaten into them (literally for some) and that kind of conditiining is hard to break out of. This is why I tell my boys its ok to cry and be upset. The only thing I dont allow is hitting and throwing. Physical aggression will not be tolerated in my house.
Very sensible. I also think that men aren’t taught to deal with each other’s emotions, and help each other through shit the way women are.
Or we’re conditioned to adhere to what ever compartmental definition women need to use to justify some kind of superiority of a none existent moral high ground in stoic silence. As if the act alone of approaching a women with romantic interest makes him a dog, when in all probable reality she has had more recent and sexual engagements of lesser emotional value. Our wants, needs, desires are turned against us as being something trivial and childish
IDK I feel like when you’re a dude whose tumblr title is “your personal rapist” you probably are kind of a dog.
“More recent and sexual engagements of lesser emotional value” still doesn’t mean you’re not creepy, dude.
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 