We have no obligation to disclose that, if you want it you can pay us. The reason you’re asking is because you either think our work is “gross” even if you won’t admit it, or you want to distance yourself from customers and clients by thinking of them as “freaks” or “gross old men” because you don’t want to think about the fact normal, everyday people buy sex workers services.
This has less than 500 notes and not to be a bitch but whenever sex workers talk about whorephobia, only other sex workers reblog it but when a civilian just says “support sex workers uwu” I’ve seen it get 49k notes.
Like I’m so tired of this. I’m tired of civilian tumblr not listening or caring. “liking” doesn’t do anything or help sex workers at all
i dunno, i think this is generally inappropriate for strangers because sex is a form of intimacy, but i don’t think curiosity about it is necessarily whorephobia. i say this as someone who has done some sex work in the past. humans are naturally curious, and because sex work has been so taboo for so long, i think often times people genuinely want to know what others are paying for. i want to know what people are paying for, partly because i want to know my options for acquiring additional income lol
so, i agree that people who are not otherwise close with you just randomly asking you prying questions about your life is inappropriate, but if a good friend had questions i’d be pretty open about my experiences (just protective of clientele, naturally). i just can’t agree that it’s necessarily whorephobic to want to know.
That’s literally not “whorephobia,” that’s just generalized curiosity.
YOU KNOW HOW MANY PEOPLE ASK ME ABOUT THE CRAZIEST SHIT I’VE SEEN!?
It’s a profession, if you do it, be proud of it.
No matter what your medical profession people will ask you what the weirdest thing they’ve seen stuck up a butt is.
First of all its intrusive but I’m sorry the medical industry isn’t stigmatized so it’s not comparable
Also I feel like the phrasing is part of the problem if you ask me “the weirdest thing” or the most fucked up thing" that’s not cool.
If you ask me what the most fun thing I’ve ever done at work was, or what the coolest thing is, or even the funniest thing I’ve ever done at work, that’s not stigmatizing the same way.
Yah good point! And it doesn’t feel intrusive that way either ykwim?
Also like the medical industry thing is a false equivalency. Done vs. seen plays very differently. Like the “what’s the weirdest thing you’ve seen?” is like “haha deviant weirdos doin’ weird shit and needing medical attention” vs. “what’s the weirdest thing you’ve done” is “haha you have to cater to deviant weirdos’ weird shit”
Like curiosity is natural, phrasing it that way is rude and intrusive.
Also like “weirdest thing you’ve done for money” avoids calling our work work. Like it implies the “selling yourself” narrative and it’s gross.
…man there’s a lot to unpack in “what’s the weirdest thing you’ve done for money”
Just ask us if we have any funny work stories. You’ll get the same info and not sound like an ass.
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