Male Stoicism is backed up by an incredible amount of emotional labor from women

raekeiko:

thepeacockangel:

Like men are able to get away with never expressing of requesting help with their feelings because women are trained from a very young age to observe men, watch for signs of emotional need and environmental stressors and deal with them without being asked.  It’s why women worry constantly about emasculating the men in their lives but men never worry about “efeminating” the women in their lives.

Men are “stoic” only because they don’t have to communicate in order to get their emotional needs met.

i sat here for a while trying to figure out why this post is so terrible, and really it is quite awful, i cant tell if its satirical or not but if youre being serious this is so ?? insensitive . and definitely not what a feminist like myself (who identifies as a woman hi) would agree with at all and definitely not what ANY feminist should ever agree with

the fact is that men dont rly have the option to show emotion, they berate women for being overemotional and thats a fact, but because they do that (cause society says lol women are so emotional and its funny) then they DONT wanna show emotion, like?? ask any guy and hell say he doesnt WANT to cry, its not that they dont show emotion because they want ppl to guess, its that theyd rather hide it because showing emotion is considered “weak” for men, like??? go?? ask a guy!!! this is so? its just a bad bad post

feminism is working to make emotions like.. for EVERYONE again so that guys are ABLE to show emotion without being emasculated BY OTHER MEN, NOT by women!! idk this is just?? maybe im just reading this wrong but i hate this post bye

First of all the idea that all women are free to express emotion is wrong and erases other axises of oppression, second this post isn’t about their motivation.

The point is that men’s stoicism would be impossible without the emotional labor of women. Like yes, displaying emotion in our culture is not an option for most men, however that cultural requirement would be utterly impossible without emotional work done by women.