So a dude accused me of “using my body to get what I want and then complaining about nonexistent objectification and misogyny” when I’d been talking about misogyny in genres of music where I did the groupie thing.  Like is using your physical sex appeal specifically to get sex not like the ONE time where “using your body to get what you want” is considered totally normal? 

Which is not to say complaints of women using sex appeal for say… career advancement aren’t utter bullshit too, but like literally what other quality would I have used in that situation?  I don’t think my experience with adobe photoshop or how many WPM I type are really applicable to getting casual sex.

I think it amounts to dudes not understanding that finding someone sexy is not the same as objectifying them.