Look, if you can’t deal with doing the actual work of challenging and changing sexism (which is a slow and draining process, I know) let me do it. Stay out of the way in your safe space while I get this done, you can come out when the revolution’s finished.

Like, don’t approach people in ways that no one has ever responded positively to because you think that’s an approach people should respond to, and then get huffy when they don’t and destroy all the progress I’ve made.  You’re not helping.