Male Stoicism is backed up by an incredible amount of emotional labor from women

ren-nachos:

icarntspell:

thepeacockangel:

Like men are able to get away with never expressing of requesting help with their feelings because women are trained from a very young age to observe men, watch for signs of emotional need and environmental stressors and deal with them without being asked.  It’s why women worry constantly about emasculating the men in their lives but men never worry about “efeminating” the women in their lives.

Men are “stoic” only because they don’t have to communicate in order to get their emotional needs met.

…ok first of all, what the hell. I’m sorry that we grew up to not show our emotions taught by the ones around us and even ourselves, hiding our feelings is not stoic and shouldn’t be seen as stoic but we’re taught it because if we show emotions we could become a burden on those around us.
Some of us realize that we’re allowed to show happiness and other emotions that bring people up but hell, you’ll never see us cry.
We didn’t ask you to worry about us, although I’ll agree we don’t thank you enough for doing it anyways and caring, thank you girls (or partners of the person who is emotionally hard to read) You make life a better place and the world easier to live in, but fuck you if you try and shame us for something we were told would emasculate ourselves for doing.
This post bothers me beyond words and darkens my day.
Sorry for expressing my opinion

You can and should learn to do better.  Yes, it’s an uphill battle, but for the sake of the women in your life, you do it.  You’re an adult.  You acquire skills you weren’t taught as a kid all the time.