Like men are able to get away with never expressing of requesting help with their feelings because women are trained from a very young age to observe men, watch for signs of emotional need and environmental stressors and deal with them without being asked. It’s why women worry constantly about emasculating the men in their lives but men never worry about “efeminating” the women in their lives.
Men are “stoic” only because they don’t have to communicate in order to get their emotional needs met.
How far up your own vagina do you have to have your head to take the fact that our society effectively beats certain emotions out of men from early fucking childhood (“Man up!,” “Boys don’t cry,” and any number of similar lines I am sure you would have come across if you paid attention to anything outside yourself) and turn it into “lulz men don’t
have to be bothered with those troublesome EMOTIONS because we, the perpetually opressed women, do the labor-intensive work of FEELING for them.” I am honestly curious.
You’re clearly not getting what I’m saying. I’m very aware that men are punished for emotional expression. It’s a two part system. Men are punished for expressing emotion, but that would be unsustainable if women didn’t make sure to take care of men’s emotional needs to a large extent by insulating them from shit.
It’s not that women do the work of feeling, it’s that women do the work of paying very very close attention to the emotional environments and cues of the men around them so that they can for example comfort a guy if she knows he’s going to be sad without him having to express sadness.
So maybe you want to consider the fact that since it’s a two part system that is damaging two different genders women aren’t the only victims
Where did I say that women are the only victims? Please point it out.
I think this is more of a “I am uncomfortable when we are not about me” thing. Like…why can’t we talk about things that affect women like ever without worrying about somebody else?
The demand for emotional labor/the general labor of social reproduction…?
Madeira Darling is a snarky mystic, devout Satanist, serious Marxist, laughing dominatrix, and writer from San Fransisco where they live with their boyfriend in a house full of altars to their various demons.
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