Male Stoicism is backed up by an incredible amount of emotional labor from women

momweed:

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wikdsushi:

softmotherswimming:

thepeacockangel:

Like men are able to get away with never expressing of requesting help with their feelings because women are trained from a very young age to observe men, watch for signs of emotional need and environmental stressors and deal with them without being asked.  It’s why women worry constantly about emasculating the men in their lives but men never worry about “efeminating” the women in their lives.

Men are “stoic” only because they don’t have to communicate in order to get their emotional needs met.

i….

…….have never read something that explains my family dynamic so well

This describes the past several MILLENNIA, including why so many men only really communicate with their bros.

i’ve discussed this with men in my life who claim that they’re looked down upon for sharing their emotions, that it’s considered by other men to be emasculating to share their feelings or show any emotional vulnerability. and when i’ve asked them what is worse–the opinion of other men, or the price you pay when you bottle emotions up, or refuse to share–they’ve always, ALWAYS said ‘the opinions of other men.’ so i agree that stoicism is a choice, and that this choice ultimately harms women as much as it harms men…drains our emotional reserves, even as we’re seen as the ‘overemotional’ ones, while enabling men to continue and perpetuate this cycle.

@silkkymilk