I Think There’s an Interesting Thing About Society’s Views On Women

thepeacockangel:

Where women especially have to be born to something in order to be valid.  Like female heroes in media rarely become special through their own agency, they were born special, to special parents.  Women are supposed to be born beautiful, beauty that isn’t *~*~*~*natural

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is despised as unnatural and immoral.  I think one of the ways women are dehumanized is that we’re not supposed to grow or change or become.  We’re just supposed to be.  Women are sort of supposed to be like angels, purer and more moral than men, ethereal ideal beings without free will.  If we show signs of free will then we’re the devil. Men are allowed to be complex, flawed, growing, changing beings.  We’re supposed to be static.

The popularity of princess fantasies speaks to this to me.  Boys’ fantasy characters often become special.  Girls’ fantasy characters have to be born special.

IDK my point is that for women specialness or value isn’t something we’re supposed to be able to acquire for ourselves, but must be inherent to us or possibly bestowed by a man (through parentage or marriage)

Addendum: Also this probably relates to a lot of experiences I don’t have, and like someone confirmed my thought that this whole line of societal reasoning plays heavily into transmisogyny

It seems to me women are supposed to be static without the agency of a man. We’re supposed to be born beautiful, and striving to attain it is seen as vain and bad, but it’s worse not to be beautiful. We’re supposed to be desired but not desire, loved but not to love (unless it’s to reflect love we’re given) we’re trophies to be won. It’s interesting that there are a myriad of movies about high school where the guy tries to accomplish something to attract the attention of/“win” the girl he likes, and a myriad of movies where the girl gets a makeover (which proves that underneath her bad fashion sense and what not she was beautiful all long bleh). Often the guy even instigates the makeover. Men act, women are acted upon.

We are allowed to want only to be wanted.