Also sometimes “choice feminist” rhetoric bothers me, because like, do your makeup, don’t do your makeup, that’s all fine and good, humans have been painting our faces since we got slightly less hairy then our predecessors, but the whole “I want to choose to stay home and be supported” thing (when done by straight women) rubs me the wrong way a bit because like A: the position of dependence that puts you in makes me uncomfortable and is actually historically aberrant (most people were subsistence farmers, both partners in a married couple were necessary for survival, whereas now the partner who works outside the home would be fine without due to technology and so on, for most of history the vast majority couples were interdependent rather than one depending upon the other) B: The fact that this is overwhelmingly something women choose and are expected to choose is suspicious as fuck C: Without the radical demand for wages for housework it enforces the idea of domestic labor as not being “real” labor D: I’m just saying the fetishization of economic dependence upon someone else (someone you’re presumably in a relationship with) makes me feel icky. E: Being economically dependent on another person creates really fucked up power dynamics that are really hard to overcome and with the gendered power dynamics on top of that it’s just like… really easy for such a situation to turn deeply unhealthy

I’m probably wrong and an asshole for feeling this way… but like stay home with your BBys/cats/whatever by all means, that’s awesome, but demand to be paid for it and shit.