Tag: BDSM

Also like have I ever explained that like one of the reasons I’ve like spent as much time as I have learning to be good at hair and makeup and the like is because I kiiinda get off on helping partners with that stuff… which probably all goes back to like my first serious crush being an aspiring actress while I was an aspiring makeup artist/costume designer. She was at the time much prettier than me, and like I sort of got off on lavishing her with attention and IDK the amount of closeness stuff like that allowed and like IDK I kinda worshipped the ground she walked on and kinda got off on feeling inferior and like it’s weird and hard to word… 

a twisted self loathing pleasure out of being the mousy attendant while she was sort of… the star I guess, I’m sort of rambling, but then like I got older and turned out pretty but I still like that sense of being… I suppose inferior… though also like I obviously love getting attention and affection and getting to be thought of as pretty by women I like but ugh yeah.

IDK I apparently have a lot of weird baggage leftover from continually falling in love with straight girls.

What about pet play

where the person playing the pet is pretending to be a finicky asshole cat and is thus the dom.

“rub my belly for exactly 5.2 seconds, longer and I will bite the fuck out of you”

“I’m going to sit on you while you try to do work” 

“sticking pointy things in you is how I show I care”

“BRUSH ME”

“I’m going to bring you a present… it’s a dead animal in the middle of the night”

“I’m sorry, did I say you could go to sleep when I still wanted something?”

“All of the furniture is mine now, you have permission to sit on none of it”

Most People Talking About Misogyny In Porn

Talk about the misogyny in male dom porn, or relatively vanilla porn, the very obvious shit, slapping, pain, crying, very few people discuss the misogyny in femdom or the subtle shit and when you talk about only what’s blatant you reduce the iceberg to not just what’s visible but to the very highest peak of the damn thing and everything else just gets hand waved away.  This is actually a problem.

Femdom shows us patriarchal ideas about female power and I think that’s interesting.

I Think A Lot Of The Time People Mistake Discussion For Advocacy

Like I can depict war without being pro-war (I’m generally very anti-war except for revolution).  I can make art about something without being in favor of it.  I can be interested in something without being in favor of it.

I also think people often think media causes society to be a certain way, when I think it’s more usual that media is produced because society is already a certain way and a fucked up society is just expressing what’s already there.

People also seem to think that fetishes are an advocation rather than a response.  You know?  Like a lot of my fetishes are me working through and dealing with misogyny and stuff surrounding gender I’ve dealt with my whole life and around class and mental illness and just… shit.

And I’m not advocating the way the world has treated me, I’m processing it.

When the people are being beaten with a stick, they are not much happier if it is called “the People’s Stick.

Mikhail Bakunin

Need to get a whacking stick for my dungeon that I can name “The people’s stick”