Tag: beauty

You know it really undermines your critiques of women getting plastic surgery

When you follow up “it’s so sad women are mutilating themselves because of beauty standards” with “and she looked so much prettier before”

What you want her to get more surgery so she can meet your beauty standards again?

I have issues with the rest of your argument too (though yes it does suck how we have these beauty standards constantly shoved down our throat) but like, making it clear you want her to get more surgery to “undo” what she had done because of your beauty standards is especially hypocritical

Here’s The Thing That I Think Is Really Disingenuous and Fucked About “everyone is beautiful” stuff

Is that it attempts to resolve a problem by denying a problem, if that makes sense?  Like “everyone is beautiful” is a nice sentiment but at the same time, we all know, that no, there’s a social standard and no not everyone fits it, there is a standard of what beauty is and that’s undeniable.  There is “more beautiful” and “less beautiful” according to the shitty standard imposed by society.

And so while I can see beauty in everyone, I still know the standard is there, pretending that “no everyone does fit the standard” doesn’t help or pretending that the standard isn’t there doesn’t deconstruct the standard.

It’s still there, looming over everything and I think honestly it will be until we abolish the idea that beautiful is something you have to be in order to be good or valuable.

Admittedly a lot of my body issues are control ones, I don’t necessarily want to be beautiful, but there is a specific look I want, a look that’s exaggerated, extreme and over the top and the idea of not being in control of my appearance freaks me mightily the fuck out.

However also I currently know that I fit the standard of beauty rather well, and that there have been times in my life (significant portions of my formative years) where I did not fit the standard, and I know how differently people treated me.

Sometimes it feels like beauty is all I have because when I wasn’t beautiful no one heard me or paid me any attention whatsoever and now?  people do.  I’m still fundamentally the same person and yet?  I get treated with so much more patience, compassion, respect and general kindness than I did when I wasn’t pretty and that’s fucked up

If We Handled Favorite Colors The Way We Handle Beauty Standards

The most popular favorite color in the world is blue, and so society would tell us that liking any color other than blue was some kind of creepy fetish.  Media would depict all other colors as hideous, ranked on how similar they were to blue, green’s okay, purple’s okay, turquoise is pretty good, orange?  Oh my god what’s wrong with you? You’re obviously some kind of sex pervert.

Obviously they’d say liking blue relates to like deep evolutionary psychology, liking clean water, and the sky and that sort of thing, but liking red?  Obviously there’s something wrong with your DNA, red is the color of blood, what kind of fucked up pervert likes the color of blood.

And then there’b be color positivity campaigns that are like “It’s just as good to like turquoise as it is to like blue.”  or like “Primary blue is an unrealistic standard to hold up to natural life, sky blue is much more realistic" and then there’d be people going “we should redefine blue as green because more things are green so it wouldn’t make as many non blue things feel bad about themselves” and “they photoshop the sky bluer than it is, they’re giving us unreasonable expectations of blueness”