Tag: capitalism

You Don’t Need To Be Unique To Be Valid Or Valuable?

Like there’s this whole cultural “I’m not like other people” thing which people do in order to feel valid or valuable or good about themselves as if in order for you to have value, other people must be less valuable.  I think it comes from the misanthropic worldview atomized individualist capitalism breeds.

Then this combines with misogyny (and other axises of oppression I don’t feel qualified to speak on) and you get the whole "I’m not like other girls” thing, which isn’t simply a statement of individuality.  It’s specifically distancing yourself from girls/women and is thus you attempting to justify misogyny towards the rest of the group while exempting yourself from it.

So like, you know what?  I’m not unique and I’m fucking glad of it.  There are other people who love the same shit I do, who feel the same ways I feel.  I wouldn’t want to be alone in loving the shit I love.  I’m happy when stuff I love gets popular, because new friends are awesome.  IDK why people get upset about that?

I think the post-modern “magic is the effect ritual has on your individual psychological state and does not go beyond that” idea has something to do with atomization under capitalism, especially late capitalism… and that basically ritual and “magic” cannot function as they might in less atomized societies (note: I’m not saying I believe in the supernatural, I’m just saying that our ideas about magic are influenced by the shape of the society they come from.)

Y’ Know What Really Fucks Me Up

Seeing some of my comrades who are from lumpen prole/prole backgrounds be SO fucking bright and having had ZERO access to education (the lucky ones have and the difference it makes to like… being able to pass and institutional access and shit– damn that’s a thing)

Like they’re smart, and they’re curious and they soak up information like a sponge and analyze it with such intelligence and just… they give a fuck, they’re intellectually engaged, and like there are just these gigantic gaps in informational and educational access… and it’s just so fucked up.

Like I know so many fuckin’ bougie prep school kids who were utterly intellectually lazy, gave not one single shit about immense amount of culture and information at their finger tips and like laughed at people who did care, and like the fucking best and brightest are fucking working cashier jobs and don’t even know how to find academic articles let alone being able to afford access to them while shitty little whoopit is getting drunk with his gross startup bros.

And it’s just like on top of everything it’s so fucking unfair.

Am I the only one who’s kinda uncomfortable

When other sex workers make fun of working class dudes while praising bougie dudes?

Like take his money, by all means, and like focus your energies on what gets you paid and don’t let anyone demand unpaid labor from you (a dude who expects as much emotional labor as a client who doesn’t pay like a client, nuh-uh, no way) but don’t be a snob, you’re a member of the working class too.  I’m not saying ‘date poor dudes’ or whatever, like I said, get paid, get the lifestyle you want, but just… don’t say mean shit about people because they’re poor, it’s a shitty thing to do.

And also like it makes me sad when I see sex workers acting like they oughta be grateful to this dude for paying for their labor… even if he’s paying you real well, you’re still doing a job, it’s a paycheck, not charity.  You shouldn’t have to get all ring kissy over that crap.