But also like the things you actually should understand and worry about are hardly mentioned.

Like sex isn’t some bad dirty immoral thing that stains you forever.  It’s fine.  It’s cool.  It’s actually not super hard to practice safer sex and

like you probably won’t die (hell I’m p. sure with protection and regular testing and shit, sex is not only safer than preparing chicken

for dinner it’s WAY safer)

But like also humans are irrational and sex has an amazing way of complicating relationships and like for a lot of people sex triggers some pretty intense emotions and can create intense emotional bonds and so like be upfront about what you want and treat people you fuck for fun with some tenderness and patience.  

I mean for a lot of people (myself included) sex can be nbd, just remember that for some people even if they don’t want it to be it ends up being a big deal because they get feels easily, and so like be cautious because it can cause horrible drama no matter how sexually liberated you feel you are and remember to treat people you get it on with some kindness and compassion after. (sex worker note: this only applies to non-clients, clients knew what they paid for)

This isn’t because sex is always or should always be connected to “magical holy true love” it’s just that for a lot of people (some more than others) sex triggers the release of oxytocin which turns a lot of people into love drunk puddles of feelings whether they want that or not.