Most People Talking About Misogyny In Porn

Talk about the misogyny in male dom porn, or relatively vanilla porn, the very obvious shit, slapping, pain, crying, very few people discuss the misogyny in femdom or the subtle shit and when you talk about only what’s blatant you reduce the iceberg to not just what’s visible but to the very highest peak of the damn thing and everything else just gets hand waved away.  This is actually a problem.

Femdom shows us patriarchal ideas about female power and I think that’s interesting.

I Really Want To Write A Thing About het Femdom Porn Under Patriarchy

And how intensely misogynistic most of it is.  It’s like an image of female power from a patriarchal society and so like what femdom is and looks like is pretty interesting in terms of what it can tell us about the patriarchy.  I have a vicious headache right now, but like I feel like a lot of it is interesting in what it reveals about the patriarchy and ideas about power

Off the top of my aching head: 

The obsession with strap ons is like dudes being obsessed with the idea that penetration = dominance

Cuckolding is about insecurity over masculinity and also “if a woman can dominate me I must somehow be inadequately male, but also I want to see her get fucked by a “proper” man, the she’s supposed to”

Sissification is again “if a woman can dominate me or I want to be dominated by a woman I must not really be a man”

There’s also this whole uncomfortable clothes = ULTRA DOMINANT on a woman, like corsetry and pointy fucking heels are dominant IDK?  I mean like I love my corsets and never wear flats but like ???

Alternatively “role reversal” shit where a dude sub is in traditionally feminine attire and the lady dom is in traditionally masculine attire is all wound up with notions of masculine power

Fin-domme is just like fantasizing about the shitty stereotype about gold diggers and the idea that women can make men irrational/unable to control themselves with lust

Smoking fetish is like “yeah it’s so dominant when you do something that’s actively harming you”?