The idea that femininity resides in being smaller/weaker/less than/whatever sucks. Femininity is not passivity, submission, or fragility, those are not where the feminine resides.

There’s nothing wrong with being smaller or weaker or what have you, but like that’s not a healthy place to place your ideas of what makes you feminine if you want to feel feminine (or like even if you don’t, cause like everybody’s smaller/weaker/etc than somebody)

What really worries me is that out of all the stuff I’ve read with people panicking about little girls liking princesses too much

is that no one is more concerned with the endorsement of monarchy than with the endorsement of poofy dresses. Personally I am far more concerned about the marketing of monarchy than I am about the marketing of poofy dresses.

I’m Increasingly Coming To The Conclusion

That masculinity is an artificial construct, separating itself off from the natural state of humanity. Femininity and masculinity aren’t “in need of balancing”, masculinity just needs to stop pretending it’s separate and superior.

Also would other people who feel partial

but not complete sympathy with Aristasia talk to me? Ideally other leftists?

Masculinity is defined at least in our culture by two characteristics: Domination, and the absence of the feminine.

Incidentally the locus of sexuality for me is

you guessed it, within the realm of the hyper feminine and has a lot of freaky sex-death shit and yeah basically my sexuality is Peggy Bundy’s redesign of Al’s bathroom.

The Monstrous And The Feminine

Is it just me or is monstrousness intimately linked with femininity? The hideous old witch who fails to perform adequate femininity, the comparison to women who’ve had cosmetic surgery to Frankenstein, the way anytime the feminine appears outside of very neat, tidy, strictly controlled bounds, it is monstrous, it is uncontrollable. Too much pink, too many frills, too much girliness on an adult woman is seen as macabre, suspect (see that episode of Criminal Minds where the lady kidnaps women and turns them into living dolls).

Is it only okay for little girls to have pink glittery princess rooms because they’re too small to eat anyone yet?

The link between cosmetics, the cosmic (which shares its etymology with cosmetic) and witchcraft (see the banning of cosmetics under Oliver Cromwell). The beauty ritual as macabre, potentially threatening liminal state (see: countess Bathory, see the wicked queen’s attempts to kill Snow White). See the queer coded effeminacy of Disney Villains.

See monster high dolls. See the mother of the Minotaur. See, see, see.

Does anyone else think about gender and that episode of Married With Children where Peggy

redecorates Al’s bathroom in ultra frilly pink a lot?

And like what it says about the “bad wife” splashing femininity all over places men don’t want it but never where men do (her failure to ever cook)?

This one

Why is it that for gay men

the locus of eroticism is in the realm of the hyper-masculine but for gay women the locus of eroticism is so rarely in the realm of the hyper-feminine?

Also like taking obsessive care of a lawn is masculine but gardening is feminine? So like grass is the plant it’s manly to take care of? WHY? WHY IS GRASS MANLY?