“Make the women’s thing like the men’s” and never “make the men’s thing like the women’s”
Idk I think having married and unmarried titles for all genders and having everyone take home ec is good, also make all superheroes for adults super sexy
ESPECIALLY modern witches and neo-pagans. Seriously. (also it’s just good)
Having your female characters armoured significantly differently from your male characters is, in fact, an accuracy booboo (provided they’re playing roughly the same combat role). If a society’s method of warfare is heavy armour and big slow tank sorta stuff, then you’re going to have a bad time if you’re wearing less (unless you’re in a Hoplites and Peltasts situation).but like making all your dudes Hoplites and all your ladies Peltasts… is suspicious, to say the least.
@largishcat: hey you wanna point me to a single post about dumb lady armor that DOESNT go literally “not only is this SEXIST it wouldn’t even work!” because you’re making it seem like people are concentrating on ~accuracy~ while pretending that boob armor is NOT sexist and let me tell you that is very much not the case. plus its very VERY common for fuckboy nerds to plead ~accuracy~ when defending their sexist media, is there a particular reason why you object to people refuting that
Me: Really, cause I’ve seen many. I’ve also seen a fuck ton of lady armor depicted as practical that simply fucking isn’t.for the aforementioned reasons. Also given the history of military attire, it’s also just an absurd, ahistorical, incoherent argument. Like it’s just a bad fucking argument because (as someone who is really into costume history) it’s simply not true. Like they don’t actually care about accuracy or everything wouldn’t be covered in spikes that prevent you from raising your arm all the way. Incidentally, the arguments against boob plate being workable and protective are… frankly bad (as I explain here). I just hate the modern “utilitarianism” aesthetic invading fucking fantasy art and being outlandishly misapplied to historical periods. I don’t want practical armour for women, I want armour that is every bit as spicy, horned, and over the top badass as the dudes get (or dudes in tiny leather booty shorts, either is acceptable to me). IAlso I have never seen a nerd boy plead accuracy on cleavage armour, ever.
but boob plat is totally unworkable and would totally get you killed you guis (DO YOU SEE THE MAN TITTY ON THAT THING?)
Also sometimes “choice feminist” rhetoric bothers me, because like, do your makeup, don’t do your makeup, that’s all fine and good, humans have been painting our faces since we got slightly less hairy then our predecessors, but the whole “I want to choose to stay home and be supported” thing (when done by straight women) rubs me the wrong way a bit because like A: the position of dependence that puts you in makes me uncomfortable and is actually historically aberrant (most people were subsistence farmers, both partners in a married couple were necessary for survival, whereas now the partner who works outside the home would be fine without due to technology and so on, for most of history the vast majority couples were interdependent rather than one depending upon the other) B: The fact that this is overwhelmingly something women choose and are expected to choose is suspicious as fuck C: Without the radical demand for wages for housework it enforces the idea of domestic labor as not being “real” labor D: I’m just saying the fetishization of economic dependence upon someone else (someone you’re presumably in a relationship with) makes me feel icky. E: Being economically dependent on another person creates really fucked up power dynamics that are really hard to overcome and with the gendered power dynamics on top of that it’s just like… really easy for such a situation to turn deeply unhealthy
I’m probably wrong and an asshole for feeling this way… but like stay home with your BBys/cats/whatever by all means, that’s awesome, but demand to be paid for it and shit.
Is partially the result of an unnuanced version of each proliferating mass culture every few years meaning that a generation of young women are raised in a fairly toxic version of one or the other and those who that doesn’t work for go on to be the group of young women who end up critiquing the way sexuality is handled by society.
When I was a kid we were in a period where second wave ideas about objectification and sexuality and beauty had a fair degree of social proliferation, and it was harsh and it fucked me up in a myriad of ways and made me feel really shitty and isolated and thus the culture of sex negativity created sex-pos as a response to growing up in these conditions and as I grew up sex positive ideas proliferated culture, and shitty unnuanced “FUCK FOR FEMINISM IT’S EMPOWERING” pop-feminism ended up harming and traumatizing a bunch of young women and so now we’re where we are now, and like I’m guessing it’s going to go back and forth this way until we develop a model that includes both society’s tendency to demand sex of women and demand women remain chaste, includes both society’s tendency to pathologize and demonize women whose sexual desires it labels deviant, and to demand those same sex acts of women, includes both the origin of many fetishes in oppressive social structures and acknowledges them as a response to those structures not necessarily an enforcement of them… that can be reduced to a neat little soundbite/fit on a t-shirt.
And how people were like “No, consent is mandatory” and also like “but like we shouldn’t say that because it pressures people to consent because we’re telling them that otherwise, they’re not sexy” (whereas no one read “Consent is Mandatory” as “giving consent is mandatory”)
And like how there’s a cultural idea (protestant in origin I’d say) that what has the potential to be pleasurable must by nature be frivolous/unnecessary and it’s really interesting to me.
Also like the way things are phrased seems to come in for a whole lot of attack a lot of the time, and the thing with people reading things in “off” ways that seems almost intentional a lot of the time.
(Just a note: I am a survivor, I’m allowed to talk about this shit)
IDK I feel like the way discourse around sexual assault currently stands is pretty fucked because it’s so performative and unhelpful and like weirdly witch-hunty and there’s a sort of weird focus on “right” phrasing and “right” thought in a way that feels very much like a sort of magical formula but also the terms are often really ill-defined and in flux (like radical definitions of rape and sexual assault are very vague and weird) and like you can’t even discuss what they might be for fear of being branded a rape apologist (even if you’re a survivor and you’re talking about ways stuff has been handled around your own experience and how various radical communities have failed you or failed to handle things in a sensible way) and like IDK sometimes it feels like the current culture in terms of dealing with rape (which fails routinely to deal with the systemic problem of sexual violence) exists in this like “Satanic Panic” space where you can’t ever question it or its efficacy in dealing with the problem it purports to be about without being branded “One of THEM” and like what makes it worse is sexual violence is a real thing, and a genuinely systemic issue but we’re coping with it with strategies that belong to witch trials which don’t actually solve the problem and in fact in many cases allow and perpetuate abusive behaviors and harm survivors.
But you can’t reduce nuance and complexity to a slogan that fits on a sticker so y’ know… fuck that, right?
and if seeing part of a boob short circuits your brain to the point where you can’t actually think about what someone is saying or treat them with the most basic forms of human decency? You’re on a par with a fucking poorly trained dog when it comes to self-control.
A Rant About Dudes
Alright dudes (I’m not calling everyone dudes, this is specifically addressed at dudes), say you have a male friend who’s really into black metal, and he wears corpse paint most of the time, and one day he shows up without any on. Do you feel compelled to tell him he’s “still pretty without makeup”?
No? Then why the fuck do you feel the need to say that shit to women?
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 