Tag: feminism

Sisterhood

Using the idea of “sisterhood between all women” to silence oppressed women is so shitty.  Like pitting women against one another is shitty, and all, but you know what? 

It’s not on WOC to extend the olive branch to white women, or trans women to extend it to cis women or so on and so forth.  They are really really not obligated to do that.

When we’re the woman with privilege, we need to be the one to extend the olive branch.  We need to be the one to act sisterly before we can expect sisterly love and support from women who we benefit from systemically oppressing we probably have to act a lot more sisterly ourselves

I Feel Like It’s A Shame That So Many Radical Leftist Or Would Be Radical Leftist Women

End up doing exclusively feminist activism, and in particularly exclusively feminist activism that doesn’t involve taking steps to dismantle capitalism.

Cause like, I know it’s sort of “the party line” but I really don’t think meaningful liberation can be achieved while capitalism exists, but like dudebro leftists push women out of orgs, and make women feel uncomfortable accessing leftist work and theory, outside of feminist specific orgs, and so most anti-capitalist orgs are really dude heavy, and it sucks, and like I see so many women who question capitalism and have really good political knowledge on feminist issues doing stuff like confusing “socialism” and “social democracy” because like we don’t distribute the knowledge of leftist theory to women, we feel uncomfortable with the classical leftist texts like they’re not “for us” and IDK, it’s not cool.

An MRA was like

“I don’t doubt you’re married to a very nice man, I wish I could tell him that one day you’ll take all his stuff in a nasty divorce.”

and I’m like “I financially support my husband, I’d be the one paying alimony, and I have no intention of leaving him, ever, he’s awesome”

Seriously though, I’m so sick of the assumption that dude = breadwinner.

Also, women who are like “what’s wrong with her, why doesn’t she make him get a job?”  Because maybe I like taking care of my partner?  Because maybe he’s better than me at a lot of domestic shit?

Also I’m getting real tired of being called a man hater, I’d say to the point where I actually do hate dudes, but there are too many dudes (especially dudes who are for various reasons vulnerable) who matter to me, GNC dudes, gay dudes, dude of color, disabled dudes, working class dudes, and all the particular and specific dudes I know and love.

Also a dude just accused me of being against equality because I protect men who don’t conform to their gender role, but not men who do, and I’m like “WHEN WAS THE LAST TIME A DUDE WAS BEATEN UP FOR WEARING PANTS, MOTHERFUCKER?”

I think the idea that the behavior of oppressors is what behaving like you are free of oppression looks like is wrong.

Like I think that style of behavior exists only as long as there is someone to dominate.

The behavior of oppressors is as much a result of their being oppressors, as much, if not more than, the behavior of oppressed people is a result of being oppressed.

Which is not to say they’re not benefitting, they are, but their behavior is still modeled by the fact that they are an oppressor class, that they have someone to oppress, that they get away without fulfilling their obligations to the rest of humanity, that they are above certain rules.

Which is not to say that how we behave as an oppressed group is the model of freedom either.

This post isn’t about criticizing oppressed people for not being nice enough, or any of that shit.  Because that’s self defense, that’s different.

I guess I mean like “manliness” is often about showing disregard for others.  It’s masculine to sit with your legs wide open on the subway, and dress like a slob and put zero effort into your appearance and you get away with showing no consideration for anyone else because you’re reminding marginalized groups that they’re in an inferior position.  Masculinity is a performance of superiority, of contempt

The fact that feminist discourse is so… trend based disturbs me

It’s not like “we progress” it’s like we have a trend cycle like fashion, and views on gender, and sexuality, and terminology and theory go in cycles.

I’ve been doing this for kind of a long time and been watching the cycle and I’m like “…sex-pos, sex-neg, sex-pos, sex-neg” and that’s how it goes and we never get actual nuance, and like sex workers are either “EMPOWERED!!!!!” or “TRAGIC!!!!!” (and I think that might be because if we admit to the actual nature of the problems in sex work, we actually have to question capitalism and that’s not allowed) and like whether we want gender abolition or additional gender categories goes back and forth on the hip opinion to have, and like femininity is cool, then it’s not, then it’s cool again, 

and like I’m just over it.