Tag: femme

Also like you know fucking what?

Google gives the definition of femme as:

  1. a lesbian or an effeminate male homosexual who takes a traditionally feminine sexual role.

Which is like clearly not how it’s used here and people would fight you SO hard over that definition, but also would be FURIOUS if you didn’t define it the way they do but also would be like “Well there’s context and tradition behind the meaning” and then be like “GOOGLE IT, it’s not my job to educate you” when you ask them what the word in fact means according to them.

You know

I’m really really tired of arguments about what the word femme means, and the history of the word and who’s allowed to use it and whatever.  

At this point I don’t even care what we decide it means and who we decide its use is limited to.

Just settle on one definition so arguments don’t turn into semantic nightmares.

Also like have I ever explained that like one of the reasons I’ve like spent as much time as I have learning to be good at hair and makeup and the like is because I kiiinda get off on helping partners with that stuff… which probably all goes back to like my first serious crush being an aspiring actress while I was an aspiring makeup artist/costume designer. She was at the time much prettier than me, and like I sort of got off on lavishing her with attention and IDK the amount of closeness stuff like that allowed and like IDK I kinda worshipped the ground she walked on and kinda got off on feeling inferior and like it’s weird and hard to word… 

a twisted self loathing pleasure out of being the mousy attendant while she was sort of… the star I guess, I’m sort of rambling, but then like I got older and turned out pretty but I still like that sense of being… I suppose inferior… though also like I obviously love getting attention and affection and getting to be thought of as pretty by women I like but ugh yeah.

IDK I apparently have a lot of weird baggage leftover from continually falling in love with straight girls.