Tag: friendship

I Feel Like It’s Super Weird When Couples

Have like entirely separate friend groups?

Like there isn’t a whole “These are D’s friends” “These are my friends” thing with me and D, pretty much all our friends are both our friends with the exception of my online RP friends pretty much, and like he’s a little closer to some of the Lovecraftian people and I’m a little closer to some of the Alt. fashion people but like overall most of our closest friends are other leftists and are friends with both of us.

Cause like if you don’t have common interests, what do you talk about?  How do you have a relationship with someone who doesn’t wanna hang out with your friends?

Dear tumblr,

How come almost inevitably when I develop a close friendship with another woman I develop some type of awful crush on her?  How do I stop this from happening?  I just want to be able to have platonic relationships with women and I suck at it.

I am not comfortable with this happening.  I am monogamous.  The idea of being sexual with someone other than my partner (who I do love very much) upsets me.

But ALSO WHY DOES THIS KEEP HAPPENING?

You Know I Used To Think That Romance Novels Would Never Work If The Characters Communicated Like Normal People

Now I know they would and that I apparently don’t communicate like a normal person.  I have seen so many cases of “I am SUPER mad at X because they did Y, but don’t tell X I’m mad that they did Y.”

or “I’m really upset at X, because they did Y to A, but A told me not to talk about the fact that X did Y to them, or why they’re upset”

I see this shit CONSTANTLY.  I hate it.