Means missing perspectives on things that are actually important.  Like it’s not the only thing, it’s not the be all end all, it’s not meant as an attack on any individual person’s choices. I’m just saying that as a culture we need to examine the fact that women end up doing significantly more work overall, and having significantly less leisure time overall, than men.  Like a het couple can be in love and have a relationship and one person does more work than the other and if they’re cool with it that’s fine, but I’m just saying that in society as it stands the one doing more work is the woman 9 times out of 10.  If in a het couple one partner wants to support the other while the other one keeps house, that’s fine, I just want to examine the fact that the partner doing the supporting is usually the dude and the one being supported is usually the lady, and like for an individual couple, that’s fine, but the fact that there’s this huge gender imbalance suggests that overall, something weird is going on.

Like if you chose to be a housewife, that’s awesome, I’m happy for you.  If you’re happy, and you like how things are for you, that’s awesome.  There are plenty of people who are great housespouses, and housespouses are incredibly valuable and important, but like can we please question why women end up doing more domestic labor then men overall?  Like you are not the problem, I’m not saying your relationship dynamic which is your business is the problem, if that’s the one that works for you, then that works for you, and I’d expect 50% of het couples in an ideal society where one partner does more domestic labor than the other one to have the lady doing more of the domestic labor than the dude, 50% is still a pretty big percent, I’m just questioning why it’s 90%?  

Also why are women so much more likely to feel obligated to have sex?

I just feel like our unwillingness to discuss their labor as labor is very indicative of our attitudes about feminized labor and women in general