Tag: love

My emotional range before you was: Murder angry, slow calculated vengeance angry, superior, bored, horny, schadenfreude, murder horny, and pleased by new dress.  Now there are all these new ones, what did you do?

Ysmaine (on the emotional chaos love induces)

Sometimes “Yes Dear” Isn’t the healthiest thing for your relationship

I know in past relationships, I’ve done this and it’s a real problem.

Like sometimes you squish bits of yourself in on yourself to make room for your partner, and if you keep on doing that, sometimes they just get more and more used to being accommodated and your partner starts to think “if they’ll give up so much to keep the peace they must not mind/must not be any good” and they keep asking you to squish yourself more and more until eventually they ask you to squish down some part of you you can’t squish and you can’t and by that time they’re so used to you being moldable to their needs that the whole thing breaks down

Relationships Are Kinda Like Going Out To Eat

Like you know what?  Going out to eat if there’s not a place you actually want to go is kinda pointless, why go out to eat if there’s no place good?  If you’re tired or whatever maybe just order take out, why go sit in the restaurant if you’re already tired.

Don’t be in relationships for the sake of being in a relationship or married, your default state should not be “I want to get married” even if you’re into the whole marriage dealy, it should be “I want to get married if I meet someone I want to marry’

Just like you rarely “just want to go out to eat” you want to go out if there’s somewhere you want to go.

Don’t Date People Who Don’t Actually Want To Be With You

and don’t date people who are into you just because they’re really into you if you’re not just as into them.  

I don’t know why media loves promoting that “convince them how awesome you are and eventually they’ll deign to love you” narrative (and they do it with both men and women.)  If you have to convince your partner you’re right for them, you aren’t right, and if they have to convince you that they’re right for you, you shouldn’t be convinced.

Christ.