and if seeing part of a boob short circuits your brain to the point where you can’t actually think about what someone is saying or treat them with the most basic forms of human decency? You’re on a par with a fucking poorly trained dog when it comes to self-control.
A Rant About Dudes
IS SUPER GROSS.
“men like to pursue” is so gross like “…okay, so like why are you dating someone who needs to reenact ‘The Most Dangerous Game’ in order to feel feelings?”
So I posted this status on facebook: Lately I’ve been accepting the friend requests from the dudes who’ve clearly added me only to creep my photos so I can propagandize at them. #goodasspraxis
and a random older dude who’s friends with some of my IRL friends (and works in publishing which means as a writer he might be useful) commented: “Thanks for the add”
To me in context that’s a pretty obviously gross joke. My husband says he thinks he’s just old and clueless. What do ya’ll think? I don’t want to alienate my friends or hurt my potential writing gigs… but like how do I even respond to that?
Where women especially have to be born to something in order to be valid. Like female heroes in media rarely become special through their own agency, they were born special, to special parents. Women are supposed to be born beautiful, beauty that isn’t *~*~*~*natural
*~*~*~*
is despised as unnatural and immoral. I think one of the ways women are dehumanized is that we’re not supposed to grow or change or become. We’re just supposed to be. Women are sort of supposed to be like angels, purer and more moral than men, ethereal ideal beings without free will. If we show signs of free will then we’re the devil. Men are allowed to be complex, flawed, growing, changing beings. We’re supposed to be static.
The popularity of princess fantasies speaks to this to me. Boys’ fantasy characters often become special. Girls’ fantasy characters have to be born special.
IDK my point is that for women specialness or value isn’t something we’re supposed to be able to acquire for ourselves, but must be inherent to us or possibly bestowed by a man (through parentage or marriage)
Addendum: Also this probably relates to a lot of experiences I don’t have, and like someone confirmed my thought that this whole line of societal reasoning plays heavily into transmisogyny
You know most of the criticism I’ve read of the Wraeththu books is dudes being upset at a lady’s improbable and from certain perspectives unsettling masturbatory fantasies being published alongside the sea of dude’s improbable and from certain perspectives unsettling masturbatory fantasies we usually get.
“Here allow me to mansplain the celebrity culture of your teen years to you because you called something I liked misogynistic”
A+++++++++++++++ experience.
And not way women are written or the contrast with the way male characters are designed or even good old fashioned misogyny.
Because men
(Minoan warriors)
have never
(ancient Egyptian warriors)
worn anything
(Early Hastati)
skimpy
(the Dying Gaul)
or impractical
(French soldier)
into battle
(Zulu warrior 1940s)
Ever
(German landsknechts)
At all
(Maori warriors… who just FYI are the reason New Zealand is founded on a treaty and not a constitution)
Ever
(early Spartan Hoplite)
Nope, no seemingly impractical or skimpy outfits on warriors. What a silly idea.
(Mayan warrior)
Talk about the misogyny in male dom porn, or relatively vanilla porn, the very obvious shit, slapping, pain, crying, very few people discuss the misogyny in femdom or the subtle shit and when you talk about only what’s blatant you reduce the iceberg to not just what’s visible but to the very highest peak of the damn thing and everything else just gets hand waved away. This is actually a problem.
Femdom shows us patriarchal ideas about female power and I think that’s interesting.
Forgetting that Baphomet has titties is misogyny.
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 