Tag: parenting

I don’t understand why people demand unquestioning obedience from kids 

A: Understanding why means they can extrapolate and anticipate how other shit works.

B: Teaching them authority is infallible is a great way to make sure they never solve a problem creatively or make anything better.

C: It teaches them to see you as perfect and omnipotent which is a high tower to fall off of.  Why are you so scared to say you don’t know?  I’m really looking forward to having relationships with my children as a complex and fallible human being who loves the hell out of them and would do anything for them, but still fundamentally a human being with wants and needs and drives beyond parenting.

Thinking About What To Do About Educating My Future Spawn

Cause like public school’s are terrible here and give crappy education intended to teach you how to be a non-self starting drone, the buildings are unhealthy, their social studies programs are bourgeois propaganda, and start too early in the day and damage their tiny brains.

And private schools are unaffordable to me, put them in with the bourgeois, prepares them for a life as a member of the bourgeois or the moyenne-bourgeois and teaches them at best bourgeois pseudo-leftist and at worst essentially aristocratic ideas.

And homeschooling is often… well it leaves them undersocialized, poorly prepared to participate in society and yeah.

I want there to be like a non-hippie-dippy collectively run free school that teaches children to take initiative, and think independently and is steeped in working class, mutual aid praxis, but also teaches them the skills to be “respectable” and navigate bourgeois society when needed.  One of the classes I think would be super useful is code switching.

Family Game Night

Future Me On Family Game Night: It’s family game night, and you know what that means!
Future children: Oh boy! It means we’re going to play Class Struggle the game, which teaches the virtues of Marxism in a fun and easy to understand way!
Future me: Class Struggle is never fun, children. It is serious business and you should write this failure down in your self criticism journals.

Also I don’t want to raise my kids to be grateful to me

I want the stuff I do to make my kids happy, and I want them to like like and appreciate it.

But gratitude implies a kind of subordinance I’m not into, I don’t want them to feel like they don’t deserve it, because they’re my kids, they deserve to have what they need, and nice things and to be happy.

I mean like I don’t want them to throw tantrums if I accidentally fuck up and get them the wrong color of phone or whatever, but I want them to feel more “Aw, mum’s trying her best, and she really loves me, I know she’d never do this on purpose” and not “I should be grateful to have a phone at all because I’m an undeserving wretch.”

I Kinda Really Want To Adopt A LGBTQetc Teenager Who’s Been Kicked Out By Their Parents.

I feel like it would be good for me because I could satisfy my maternal instincts but also have a person who won’t smear poop everywhere and who is an interesting person already.

And it’d be good for them because they’d get cool parents (who are too young to be their real parents but whatevs) who love them and a bedroom painted to look like space.

The only issue is I’d want to be able to afford to get them everything, like beautiful clothes, the coolest gaming systems, opportunities to explore whatever they are passionate about,

and awesome family vacations and all the books they could ever want, and if they were trans the very best in terms of medical and surgical care to reduce their dysphoria , and right now money tends to be tight because of medical bills and I’m probably too sick and too much of a mess to be good at it.  

But if I were a little healthier, a little more financially solvent… I feel like I could be such a good mom to a teenager.  I’m good at dealing with romantic problems, I could set fair boundaries around substance use and explain why I don’t want them doing various things without getting propagandistic “Your brain is still developing and both weed and booze are bad for its development, wait until it’s developed fully” “Cocaine is expensive and if you ask me not a lot of fun also really bad for your sinuses”  “Heroin is  just dangerous as fuck, and if you feel the need for that level of pain relief something else is going wrong, please talk to me and we can work it out” “Hallucinogens are only good if you’re in a good place to start with, if you’re not in a good place, not a good idea”, I’d give them awesome safe sex talks and yeah.

Also if they were gnc or trans I’d hunt down a bunch of toys they wanted when they were little and didn’t get because their parents sucked and get them for them to make up for it