If only I wasn’t so randy and gay I could have been one, I’m charming and traditionally attractive and really really good at exercising soft power… but if you’re not born into that role you kind of have to fuck your way there and I’m really picky.
Tag: patriarchy
Also I think bourgeois women have a kind of patriarchal power over prole women on top of the class thing, and white women over WOC and so on.
Like bourgeois women feel entitled to regulate our reproduction, and sexuality. Feel they have the right to comment on and criticize our appearances. They feel entitled to us sexually (the way bougie female strip club patrons treat the dancers, also like the way bougie women will appropriate prole women’s, especially sex workers’, style of dress for a naughty thrill or to be daring,) and like also how they go to high powered jobs or skip off to spin class and leave domestic and often emotional labor to us.
For examples see:
The rise in demand for domestic labor as bougie women entered the workforce
The fact that all the modern hair removal women do started with sex workers (I don’t have a source but the modern trend for removing your pubic hair started with sex workers too)
a bunch of other stuff I’m not going to look at right now because I need a bath and to find my glasses
Also like how even straight white women will use black women as sexual props and toys (hey Miley, hey Iggy) as mentioned in the essay I linked to right there (also in the post before this because it’s that fucking good) and like WOC have written better stuff on this than me. OH also Laurell K. Hamilton’s orientalist submissive lotus blossom bullshit (google it or maybe don’t it’s depressing here’s a link and another).
Also like straight women using sga women as experiments and props and so on and so forth but like mostly I wanted to talk about the class thing because other people have written better on the other stuff.
Like the fact that Conan is believable as a heroic badass in tiny leather shorts
and a woman is not believable as a heroic badass wearing the same tiny leather shorts (usually because she’s been written badly and has been cast/drawn/etc based on beauty standards that value feminine fragility) is as much a sign of patriarchy as the fact that they’re always putting women in tiny leather shorts.
Actually I think Dworkin’s fundamental misunderstanding of the sex industry leads her to a flawed analysis of patriarchy, as well she misses some stuff on class based differences in gender presentation and misses a most fundamental point on beauty labor, which is that the patriarchy only likes that if we respectably hide the labor involved
Why are there more subs than doms?
But the fact that there are more subs than doms in:
The lesbian BDSM community
The gay BDSM community
The het femdom community
And a roughly equal number of subs and doms in the het male dom community makes me wonder if most people are naturally submissive, but men have been socialized to dominate women even though apparently almost no one actually likes being the one fiddling with bondage equipment
It also makes me think we need to reexamine this whole submission requires a higher standard of consent than dominance, because I’m increasingly sure almost no one actually enjoys being dom.
Why Do We Assume That Sexual Contact With Men
Reduces a person’s value?
Why do we as a society treat jizz like magical degradation juice?
I mean christ, that’s weird, right? Like “My genitals just squirted out a bunch of my genetic material on you because I had so much fun” is apparently the most degrading thing ever?
Also like the myth that vaginas get loose from “overuse” or that women’s bodies get “worn out/used up” by sex all go back to this weird myth that women give up some part of themselves when they have sex with men
“Your husband is a lucky man”
Is one of the worst compliments ever, at least I think so, like it feels like it’s denying that I had anything to do with it, like they’re telling a really nice china cabinet “WOW your owner is lucky to have scored you at antique mall!”
Ew.
You know?
If you think you can get rid of patriarchy without getting rid of capitalism, you’ve got another thing coming
Swefs Also Affirm Men’s Treatment Of Sex Workers
When they call sex work inherently degrading, they reinforce men’s permission to degrade us.
When they tell men that they can blame pornography and the existence of sex workers for their violence they participate in absolving men of responsibility for violence.
SWEFs condone and perpetuate patriarchal violence against and oppression of sex workers.
Thoughts From The Peacock Angel 