Tag: romance

Valentine’s Day

Dear single people and/or new couples, I know it’s fashionable to make fun of Valentine’s Day but you don’t really see the purpose of the holiday yet. It only really starts to serve its purpose when you’ve been together for years and you need a reminder to stop focusing on candy crush/the article on lobsters you’re reading/the dishes and to actually just spend time with your partner. Yeah ideally we’d all do that spontaneously or weekly or whatever but unless you’re one of those irritatingly perfect couples real life has a habit of getting in the way and it’s nice to have that once yearly reminder to make that silly grand romantic gesture and to show the person/people you love you care. If you’re single on Valentine’s Day you don’t need to feel bad/alone/etc, just remember holiday to remind those of us who haven’t worn real clothes in a week to get dressed up and do something fun that isn’t falling asleep in front of the tv

TBH whenever I see cool women

being like “WHY DO I REPEL MEN?” it’s often like either A: you’re like awesome as a person and physically totes babein’ but like aren’t great at relationships which is totally a thing and like… happens and is like work-on-able or B: You’re actually cool and most boys are just shitty.

Like the ones yr repelling are the ones that aren’t worth being with anyway, like y’ know?

Other points about love for youngins:

Love is sorta like garlic.  Garlic is amazing.  It’s flavorful and enhances so many delicious foods.  However there are times when garlic makes shit terrible.  For example, in vanilla icecream.  That’d be pretty horrible.  Just because garlic is great doesn’t mean any time you add garlic the food’ll be great.

You’re also sorta like garlic.  Some people you’ll go great with, like tomato, and cheese and beef and pasta, other people like caramel you won’t go so well with, and no matter how much you love them it’s not a good match.

Also like garlic you don’t just go with one ingredient, you can end up in a great relationship with all sorts of people, there’s not “one true love” out there, and don’t let anyone convince you there is, and even if you were say peanut butter which has long been associated with jelly, that doesn’t mean peanut butter only goes with jelly, it goes with jam and with all sorts of stuff in peanut butter cookies and sometimes in savory dishes and all sorts of stuff.  Now that doesn’t mean you need to go and be with all those ingredients.  If you wanna stick with jelly, stick with jelly.  

Because there’s not one true love, your relationships are going to be complex and imperfect and sometimes you and your partner will disagree and sometimes you’ll be grouchy or life will be hard.  Doesn’t mean your relationships not ok.  There’s no one perfect jelly for peanut butter, and different ones will have different strengths and weaknesses and ultimately making a great pb&J is about proportions and technique and other factors like the bread, so love isn’t just about two people who are compatible, it’s also about how you make the sandwich.  It’s about what you do on an everyday basis.  It’s about the work that goes in.

Also some people are like ingredients that have gone bad.  Even if you’re the best lemon in the world and you love everything about chicken normally, if it’s spoiled, you aren’t going to be able to make something good or healthy together. (this is what abusive people are like).

Also sometimes love is like sugary booze, the sweetness covers up the kick it’s packing and you don’t realize you were making a bad decision until you wake up with a pounding headache and realize you mistook a sprite bottle for your shoe

Also Like Falling In Love Is Great and Amazing and Transcendent and Wonderful

and even though it’s experienced through a chemical reaction in your brain it doesn’t mean it’s any less valid or meaningful.  As I’ve said it elevates chemistry rather than denigrating love, and how and why are not the same thing (like we know a car uses an internal combustion engine but like that doesn’t cover why you’re driving or make rushing to the hospital to give birth any less joyful and what not).  However, it is a chemical reaction, and it is important to note that when you’re first falling in love… you’re sorta high out of your mind on dopamine and oxytocin and all sorts of shit and so you need to remember you’re sorta not  sober and so just… be careful?  Y’ know?  Like how when you’re going to the bathroom when you’re kinda drunk you’re extra careful to make sure you’re not dipping your dress/scarf/etc in the toilet bowl, and you triple check to make sure you don’t have toilet paper on your shoe when you leave?

Yeah, treat the first blush of love like that.

I really love when villain couples actually have healthy super loving relationships, where like they’re actually great for eachother.  They’re loving and supportive and help each other achieve their goals… but that’s terrible for everyone around them, because the goals they help each other achieve and the shit they help one another achieve are awful monstrous things because they’re villains and they’re terrible people, they’re just y’ know good to the people they’re close to/care about cause like that’s what a lot of real life villains are like.

IDK I think it’s fun.

You Know, I Think Hetero Courtship Would Make More Sense

If the usual thing was for women to approach men,

cause like having the group more likely to be a potential physical threat do the approaching makes it way more likely that the interaction creeps out/scares the recipient than the reverse

And so het women would be happy because hey not getting perved on so much (actually for all women cause like if men aren’t approaching you, men aren’t approaching you regardless of sexuality) and not having to watch every interaction like a hawk for hints of flirtation, and het men would be happy because they’re not as worried about coming off as scumbags.