Tag: sex neg

Also I Think That The Whole Sex-Pos/Sex-Neg Pendulum Effect That Happens In Feminism

Is partially the result of an unnuanced version of each proliferating mass culture every few years meaning that a generation of young women are raised in a fairly toxic version of one or the other and those who that doesn’t work for go on to be the group of young women who end up critiquing the way sexuality is handled by society.

When I was a kid we were in a period where second wave ideas about objectification and sexuality and beauty had a fair degree of social proliferation, and it was harsh and it fucked me up in a myriad of ways and made me feel really shitty and isolated and thus the culture of sex negativity created sex-pos as a response to growing up in these conditions and as I grew up sex positive ideas proliferated culture, and shitty unnuanced “FUCK FOR FEMINISM IT’S EMPOWERING” pop-feminism ended up harming and traumatizing a bunch of young women and so now we’re where we are now, and like I’m guessing it’s going to go back and forth this way until we develop a model that includes both society’s tendency to demand sex of women and demand women remain chaste, includes both society’s tendency to pathologize and demonize women whose sexual desires it labels deviant, and to demand those same sex acts of women, includes both the origin of many fetishes in oppressive social structures and acknowledges them as a response to those structures not necessarily an enforcement of them… that can be reduced to a neat little soundbite/fit on a t-shirt.

I Think That The Excessive Focus On Sex In Feminism Is Rooted In Bourgeois Concern Over Regulating Sexual Morality

I’m not talking about the focus on rape, that’s an act of violence.

I’m talking about how the whole “how should a feminist fuck?  who should a feminist fuck? Is porn feminist? Can you be sexually submissive and a feminist?  Is this underwear feminist? for what reasons can a feminist acceptably fuck? What sex positions are feminist?” is making feminism a matter of individual sexual morality, and of regulating the sexual practices of women.  By making feminist (aka: moral) sexual practice a central concern for individuals, it distracts from collective organizing, and revolutionary practice.  Like bourgeois concern over proper sexual practice and regulating the sexualities of working class women and sex workers is just transmuted into the language of bourgeois feminism.  Like whether you’re condemning it or proclaiming loudly that “This porn is feminist” or that “strippers are feminist” you’re still putting yourself in a position of determining sexual morality and giving the discourse of sexual morality central importance.

It’s similar to locating moral practice in the dietary or body regulation habits of individuals.  It’s a bourgeois distraction from the project of actual gender liberation.