Tag: sex

Why is seeing sexual content bad for kids?

I’m not questioning whether it’s bad for kids, it’s pretty obvious it is, but like there have been numerous societies where due to space constraints one ended up sharing a room with your parents which meant seeing em go at it now and then. I think that the difference is probably that then it wasn’t an act that by merely being visible to the child involved the child. Cause then you were all sort of crammed together and like tuning each other out/ignoring each other was kinda the point but here and now, you don’t fuck in front of your kid unless on some level you *want* your kid to see, which sexually involves the kid who can’t consent due to the power differential and so that’s fucked up, similarly, you don’t show a kid porn unless it’s somehow tickling you to show them porn, which then becomes an aggressive act again. Which is why like kids who walked in on their parents by mistake are grossed out but not eternally traumatized, but kids whose parents intentionally got it on in their presence are. Ditto for kids who managed to find their parent’s stash of erotica vs kids whose parents intentionally showed them porn. Does that make sense?

Why Do We Assume That Sexual Contact With Men

Reduces a person’s value?

Why do we as a society treat jizz like magical degradation juice?

I mean christ, that’s weird, right?  Like “My genitals just squirted out a bunch of my genetic material on you because I had so much fun” is apparently the most degrading thing ever?

Also like the myth that vaginas get loose from “overuse” or that women’s bodies get “worn out/used up” by sex all go back to this weird myth that women give up some part of themselves when they have sex with men

misscherrylikesitdirty:

kenyagoldengirl:

thickasschocolatemermaid:

do people actually turn on music to have sex to.

I’m not a fan of music being played during sex. Let’s make our own music 😉
lol

FSSW sure do, that’s how you tell time and fill awkward silences.
Plus it gives you a rhythm to give head to.

I used to more often, I remember one night with a musician who shall remain nameless and we fucked to T. Rex and The Supremes and it was amazing.  Also one night D and I had mind blowing sex to The Sisters Of Mercy, I swear there was some psychic connection shit going on that night

Alright I’m really sick of “lesbians can’t have long nails” allow me to explain you some things

1. Not every lesbian has a vagina
2. There are lesbians who don’t like being penetrated
3. Acrylic nails aren’t sharp in most cases and are strong enough to use for g-spotting if you’re careful (you should clean your hands really thoroughly or wear gloves for this though cause nails can trap bacteria)
4. Many lesbians have tongues
5. There are these things called sex toys, which can be used in place of fingers if you don’t wanna cut your nails.
6. How come no one questions how sex with long nailed cis het dudes works (goth boys, classical guitar dudes)? Is it because “well he has a dick, obvs he doesn’t need to use fingers”? cause that’s a shitty argument and fuck you
7. I dated a girl with long natural nails for over a year and I’m a bottom and we managed fine.

whoremoantherapy:

Omg, I read the rest of thepeacockangel‘s argument with that rando trying to claim that bdsm necessarily entails replicating oppressive power dynamics largely based on gender and how the term “kink” is totally different and cool…even though it’s a literal synonym for bdsm except I tend to associate it with rapey hetero swinger types. 

And I’m not going to reblog it since I don’t get into “debates” with people clearly lacking the intelligence to do so. But I want to point out how even though she doesn’t mention it explicitly, it’s pretty clear to me from reading her responses that the reason she fails to see how her argument relies entirely on compulsory heterosexuality is because she’s one of those cis women who fetishizes trans men and doesn’t view those relationships as heterosexual. 

One of the things I basically see as a giveaway in that regard is that she constantly makes reference to “cis men” when specifying their cis/trans status is completely irrelevant to the discussion. And then when thepeacockangel challenged her about her heterosexism she said something like, “Even queer bdsm relationships replicate oppressive power dynamics because they almost always revolve around fetishizing the woman!” And then she went on to write an entire paragraph about how what’s she’s saying applies to queer people too, and using several examples, while literally making no reference at all to same sex coupling. 

You see, this is the problem with abusing terminology. Like she’s been accused of ignoring gay people yet chooses to substitute the term queer for gay in her response as if those terms are interchangeable and therefore thinks what she’s writing makes sense even though she still continues to ignore gay people throughout. Like if the word “queer” suddenly dropped out of her lexicon then she wouldn’t have been able to get away with that absurdist answer. Because how much sense would it make to write, “Even gay bdsm relationships replicate oppressive power dynamics because they almost always revolve around fetishizing the woman!” It’d be like um, which woman? And how can I fetishize someone’s gender when it’s the same as mine? And then she wouldn’t be able to get away with her heterosexist transphobic nonsense that requires so much semantics you have to scroll down around a dozen times just to read it all. 

If that woman is reading this I sort of want to say, “BDSM isn’t the problem you’re describing…men (and to some extent all masculine people) are. You would recognize this if you saw the men you date as men even though they have vaginas. And no fucking wonder you have zero concern for people in same sex relationships. Your entire worldview is so twisted you’ve lost any understanding of what a same sex relationship is.” 

And yes, I’m making a ton of assumptions here. I’ve just seen this pattern way too many times it’s become incredibly telltale.