I’m really glad how deeply chill I am about sex, it’s really emotionally intense and involved for a lot of people and for me at this point a shtup is a shtup, and I mean it can be a profound act of intimacy and overwhelming transcendent experience, an act of the most complete love and trust between people possible but also it can just be, you know, a shtup, and that doesn’t even mean the sex was bad, just you know, didn’t see the lights of Andromeda when I came, didn’t feel souls connect and earth move, but I can still have come really fucking hard.

The casual sex I’ve had in my life, has usually been pretty good, the “deeply in love” sex has varied wildly, with D it is that earth shaking, soul poking, holy-shit-I-just-saw-god type of thing, but that’s not the only way to have sex, and frankly, being chill about it has made me a lot more loving and appreciative as a partner.