Also I Don’t Really Love “Sex shaming”

as a term for the behavior either because it’s actually got relatively little to do with actual sexual behavior (as studies mentioned previously show).  I mean it’s really more “enforcing codes of bourgeois femininity and maintaining class divisions through setting up working class and especially working class out-group women as deviant and hypersexual” but that’s kinda wordy.

Whenever I hear guys expressing a preference for virgins/inexperienced or even non-slutty women, all I hear is ‘no basis for comparison on how bad I am in bed, no basis for comparison for how bad I am in bed, no basis for comparison for how bad I am in bed,’ I dunno, it’s probably problematic, but it just screams insecurity over their sexual performance to me

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(D is cute)

A Lock That Can Be Opened By Many Keys

I was thinking about the ol’ “A key that can open a lot of locks is a pretty good key, but a lock that can be opened by many keys is a shitty lock” analogy, which seems like a shitty analogy, but actually it’s just that the conclusion is wrong.

See, why might one want a lock that can be opened by many keys?  Perhaps because you’re generous and want the resource to be available to many people, like the “lock” on the cabin my dad built in our woods, anyone can open it, it doesn’t even need a key, you just have to turn the little piece of wood so that the door can swing open.  We want hikers and anyone else who happens to be taking a stroll to have access to the cabin so the lock isn’t supposed to keep people out.  Then why have a lock in the first place, you ask?  In this case to prevent bears from getting in and ransacking the store of snacks we keep up there.  You might also want such a lock to say… prevent children from falling into a pool, while allowing access anyone who can work the lock.  There are any number of things one wants to make accessible to the general public, but also keep animals and unattended children out of.

Now what kind of a person might want a key that can open any lock?  I can think of only one kind of person who would like such a key, and it’s a person who intends to go where they’re not wanted.

So a lock that can be opened by any key is a great lock for someone generous who wants to share something, but a key that can open any lock is a key that’s only desirable if you have bad intentions